It was an ordinary COVID remote work day. If there is such a thing.
Like many of us, my day involved reading and responding to tons of emails. Many of those emails had “tone.” But that’s nothing new. As a litigator, most of the emails I receive from opposing counsel are nasty, passive aggressive, or crafted with the motive of creating a self-serving “record” for the judge’s eyes later on in the case.
This email was different though. Our opponents were trying to get what’s called “discovery” from our side. …
25 things you can try to this month to bake enjoyment into your schedule. Because you don’t know how long you are here.
“I’m going to go snuggle in my bed with my puppies,” says my 12-year-old. It’s a Saturday afternoon. A rainy one. My son has zero expectations for the day. He could care less what his friends are doing. He is not thinking about what school will bring in two days after the holiday break. His only concern is with the present moment. Which involves “vegging” in bed with his pups while playing video games. …
So you can focus on what matters.
Charles Darwin said that “a man who dares to waste one hour of time has not discovered the value of life.” Goethe said that “every second is of infinite value.” And Seneca stated, simply, “value your time.”
But how do we preserve this most precious resource in our “always on” era? How can we achieve our goals if clients, colleagues, friends, and family expect us to respond instantaneously to texts, emails, and DMs? Even outside the digital realm, how can we carve out more time amidst commutes, jobs, and family obligations?
There are…
So you can start the year with your mind right
1. Figure out your why
Do you have a why? It might be your children, your parents, your partner, or the full potential you have not yet reached. Have a bigger reason for why you wake up in the morning and do what you do. Simply trying to make more money or keep a job is not enough. Your why is going to push you when you want to give up. It’s going to give you the lift you need to get through your day and to move onto the next level.
2. Don’t be average
You have not…
3 steps for bulletproofing your mind against sexist societal messaging
“You’re not confident, are you?” He said it with a smirk. A policeman. Gruff. Smug. And perfectly comfortable dressing me down at my place of work.
He wrote the police report for my client’s accident. A car hit her while she was in a crosswalk. I was taking his testimony, one of my first depositions as a newly-minted lawyer. It wasn’t a contentious deposition— I was just getting the facts. Even so, he had to put me in my place.
“You’re not confident, are you?” I vividly remember everything about…
Join me.
If you do most of the housework and childcare in your household, I encourage you to join me in striking against doing any of it on International Women’s Day, March 8, 2020. If you can.
International Women’s Day has been celebrated in countries around the world for over 100 years and marks a call to action for accelerating gender parity. What better day to acknowledge the value of the free labor women do in the home. And its impact on their earnings. …
3 life lessons from pint-sized gurus
Rocky and Lucy came into our lives unexpectedly. They were dumped in a box on a vet’s doorstep. Our neighbors fostered the litter until they were old enough to adopt. My son played with them all summer. One day, he begged to adopt the runt — Lucy — and her bruiser brother Rocky. Against my better judgment, I agreed.
I didn’t do any research on how to manage puppies before we adopted them, and it’s probably good I didn’t. Had I known I’d be getting up in the middle of the night to let…
A story that tells itself with the title alone
