Boxing gyms and piano bars taught me more about success than any job ever did

Martuni’s is one of the best-kept secrets in San Francisco. It’s a gay bar in the Castro with a piano player every night of the week. I lived there in my 30s, and I am better for it.

It’s not one of those cheesy singalong piano bars you see in big cities. No. At Martuni’s, you muster all your courage, liquid and otherwise, to step…